My sister's husband will not let me be

I am 25, old enough to be a wife in my own home. But God has not decreed it so. So I found myself still staying in my sister's house. But i am getting involve in a situation that could lead to incest, betrayal and sin to God almighty.

Ever since I got into his house, my sister's husband has had his eyes on me. At first, I thought it was just the natural love an in-law has towards another in-law. But I was wrong. Not until I began to get some leering looks, text messages, gifts and calls to meet him somewhere that i knew i was wrong. Each time my sister was out, it was hell for me at home. But he never attempted to force me or rape me. He is gentlemanly with his persuasions.

I have a sister who watches me closely. I dare not bring anything home without a good explanation on how I got it. Even if i buy bra and pants, she wants to know. In my absence, she would check my properties and ask me when and how i got what. She knows all i have. She knows how much i earn as salary, N11,000, and she ordered me to keep it in bank after all, the school where teach is just a stone throw from our house and i don't buy food and clothes. She has a faint knowledge of how much i could have in the bank.

So when my sister's husband comes with his gifts, I hide them away in the school office. Pastor Deola, I have more than N600,000 in my account, (in a separate secret account. I keep the bank details in my office) I don't know how to spend it because whatever i buy, my sister wants to know where i got the money from.

He bought me a black berry handset which I keep it in the office. He bought me a laptop, worth over N200,000, internet ready with broadband. Still hidden in office. He bought me shoes and some expensive clothing which i dare not take home. I use a table with a single drawer in the office. When my loads were getting much, I had to speak to the headmaster that i would pay for a table with three drawer. I dare not discuss this matter with any friend because the secret will be out.

I always tell this man to leave me and never dream anything can happen between him and i. At a stage of high inconvenience in the office, I took all my effects to my mother's place at Ifo, close to Sango. Up till now, the pressure is much but i have not conceded. He has his ways of getting his kicks by touching me even in my sister's presence. When we sit in parlour discussing, he would harmlessly com and sit near me and dabble in our discussions. While arguing, he would be touching me as if stressing a point. I know the tricks but my sister don't count those for anything. After a while, i will stand up, pretending to attend to the children. He once mentioned to my sister that he could buy a small car for the house, which i could be managing to take the children to / fro school. My sister objected that she would not have me ride a car before going to my husbands house, as that could drive prospective men from me. I have more that 150 texts on the phones. have deleted, i got tired. But I never made a mistake of taking the phone home.

Leaving my sister house is out of it because i have no where else to go. All other family members are poor illiterates and live in Ifo and Abeokuta. If i decide to leave for those places, i would be cut off from my church, which i love so much, cut off from my friends, cut off from the modern life of Lagos, cut off from African Magic and DSTV, etc. The challenges i will face in living in Ifo or Abeokuta is great. Yet, the challenges in facing in Lagos with my sister is unbearable and confusing my Christian life. I have withstood this devil for over 2 years.

Last week, i began to wonder: suppose i allow him once, will he kindly leave me? I sent him a text on the blackberry and he said yes. I know this is wrong. But I fear my sister. I want this madness to stop. I want to be free in the house. I want peace. I just think if I do it this once, God will forgive me.

Laide
Ifo.

Response from Pastor Deola Ojo.


Dear Laide,
I want to believe that you have not yet slept with this man. This is a grievous sin which you will not just pay for right now, but you will keep paying for, for the rest of your life.

You should never have collected any gift from your brother in law. the bible says a gift blinds the wise. This is exactly the situation you have found yourself in. you have become blind because of all the gifts this man is giving you. How could you even consider sleeping with your sister's husband once? This is betrayal of the highest order.
If a lady cannot have her sister stay in her home, who else can stay with her.
You mentioned that you.

And once you sleep with him, he will definitely keep asking for more.
If you cannot steer clear of your sister's husband, no man is safe with you. In fact you may become a danger even to your own daughter in future.

Please return all his gifts, and talk to your mum, make sure you have the text messages as evidence. You mum will find a way to convince your sister that she needs to help you get a place. Make sure that you never allow your sister's husband to know your new place and that he does not come there to visit you.

Take the decision now to honour God with your life and your body.
I pray that you will embrace holiness and keep heaven as your ultimate goal

In Christ's love,