Is Oral Sex permitted as Christians?

Can a married Christian husband suck his wife? and the wife sucks her husband during sex? Please help me. Is it spiritualy sound to do so in marriage? Is it a sin or is it right! Can christians do Oral sex ? (plz excuse my English)

lephilosophe.
Ivory Coast

Pastor Deola responds to you.


Born again Christians need to draw the line somewhere and decide what we feel is acceptable in the bedroom between a legally married couple and what is regarded as abomination. I am saying this because the world will not stop inventing tools for sex as well as styles and weird sexual practices.
If oral sex is okay, is anal sex also okay, how about masochism or the use of sex toys to enhance sexual enjoyment?
While we as pastors cannot tell legally married couples what to do or not do in their bedroom we can give some common guidelines:
1. Do you think it is a sin?
2. Does the act violate the husband or wife's conscience? (1Tim1:5)
3. What is the origin of the act?
4. Is it physically dangerous to either partner?
5. Does the act pose any health risks?
6. If Jesus were to come into the room and meet you in that act, would you be ashamed?

We will have to continually remind ourselves that pleasing God must be our aim whether we are in or out of our bedrooms. While I do believe that legally married couples should have mutually enjoyable and highly stimulating and interesting sex, I also advice couples to be wary of acts that may become damaging to their spirituality. It is always better to err on the side of caution.
Each couple will have to decide for themselves what they feel is right or wrong in their sexual relationship using the six steps highlighted above. If both partners cannot agree about something, then they need to shelve that part of the sexual act until they can both reach an agreement. It is not right for one partner to force, intimidate or coerce the other partner to perform an act, because this takes away the joy of sharing their bodies. However, a woman must be careful not to drive her husband into the arms of waiting ladies who are willing to satisfy his every wish and desire.