Dear Counsellor,

Do I tell him?

I have a wonderful relationship with my fiance and things have been going well with us until recently i got myself in a fix. Theres a friend who keeps asking me out even though ive told him that we cannot be together,recently he came around and before i knew it we were already making out,and we both found ourselves naked on the bed but there was no actual penetration or sex...but just kissing and the rest. I felt so bad that i let myself into such mess and what i am confused about is does my fiance really have to know about what happened or should i just forget that it happened and not mention it to him. Please, i dont know what i should do in this situation...i need advice.
Amaka, Ireland

Response from Pastor Deola Ojo.

Please tell your fiancé what happened. I cannot tell you how he will take it, but you stand the risk of a worse reaction if you do not tell him and he somehow finds out. Whatever you do in secret always has a way of being made public sometime in the future.

Let your fiancé know that you really regret what happened and that you understand that you have violated his trust and that you hope he can forgive you and give you a chance to prove that this is a mistake that you will never repeat ever again.

He accuses me of being proud because of providing for the family and is always cursing me.