Dear Counsellor,

My sister has two children for two different men in her matrimonial home.
I want to move out.

I need your advice on this matter.
I have been living with my sister since 2003. For seven years after their wedding in 1998, no child and i am aware they have gone everywhere, churches, hospitals and i suspect fetish places but no result. They have moved from one mountain to the other and still no result. That was when my mum came and advised her to try another man. We are from Edo state, her husband, Yoruba, a carefree man who is not troubled by the delay but loves my sister sincerely. Though he drinks and come in late.

One day, Mama came from village on a weekend. When my sister's husband went out, Mum called my sister and i to the bedroom. She gave me a black bottle and something like a feather and said i should lift the two up. I said why? I am a Christian. My mum shouted on me to lift those things up and say after her. "I ...... swear that I will not reveal the secret I am about to hear to anybody living or dead. If i do, the same fate that befalls my sister should befall me." I did say it. Them Mum told me that my sister is now pregnant but for another man. But her husband and that man she slept with do not know. That my sister husband will be made to be the father. Its a familiar scenerio in Africa but I don't want to be part of it.

After swearing, I told Mama that i want to pack out of the house and go and stay alone. I fear that i am now an accomplice in this falsehood. and when the repercussion will happen, I want to have a free conscience before man and God. The oath I took scares me so much. I want Gods to break it for me. Within me, I want to come to Lagos to attend Mountain of Fire where I can do deliverance. But i know i will be forced to disclose what happened. And I don't want to give my sister up. I want her to give herself up. The child is now about three years and the foolish husband does not know that the child is not his. He loves the child and thinks the child looks like him because the child has "paw paw" like him.

Now, my sister is pregnant again. I'm sure for another man, because the scheme is not to sleep with the same man so the first man will not suspect. Its all deceit counsellor. My mum has refused me moving out. She threatens me that the day i move out, I will die. Every morning she wakes up, she come to my room to plead with me. Of course no one knows we have any disagreement but the three of us. But I want to leave. I have not spoken to anybody on earth, except you and here. What can i do?

Response from Pastor Deola Ojo.