There are two or three things I want to tackle with this question.

The first one has to do with the principle of men of God telling somebody whether the man or woman he or she is going out with is the will of God or not the will of God. I don't think it is the place of any pastor to tell other person that this person is or is not the will of God for you. It is not really the place of any man of God.

I admit that perhaps as a man of God, you've observed some certain traits that make you feel that it's a risk to marry this man; it's a risk to marry this woman, on the basis of what you can see and not on the basis of a conviction of what the Holy Ghost is telling you like we try to present it to some of these people, which would be understandable.

But for you to say, as a man of God, somebody that is sensing Holy Ghost better than others, this man is not your person, this woman is not your person, I don't think this is right. We may guide: "oh, in my own opinion, the way you've come about your choice is not the best way and these are my reasons why it is not the best way. Why don't you do it this way and come about a decision, that decision and everybody will be accountable for his decision at the end of the day". 

There are people out there today who have sent their wives packing because they say that they never really loved her and that it's the leadership of the church that says, "that is your wife" and they went into it and later found out that it cannot work. Now for such reasons, let us refrain from doing any such thing.

In your own case, you wrote that the person concerned became a Christian because of you. I hope he's really born-again. Now it is usual of us who are Pentecostals to suspect such a situation. The moment somebody says, he changed because of a particular sister, very often that person, most likely, may not be sincere. He changed just because of you, so that he can get married to you. And he will then show his true colours sometime later, after you have become his wife, by that time, you are bound to the person. So, that may be what these pastors are trying to say.

Many people have done that. When they are chasing after a particular lady, they also begin to pretend as if they are Christians. They try to behave like us just to marry that person. I would appeal that children of God should please prayerfully choose the person they will get married to. Don't worry, don't jump because somebody says he has changed and he can shout in the name Jesus. That is not enough. Let God help you. Let God guide you. 

More so, open your eyes, instead shutting your eyes and looking for a vision. Open your eyes and see. They will always make slips. But if you ignore those slips that they make, you are going to regret it a lot later. These people always make slips, they will always make mistakes.

Let me share a joke with you: Some years ago, there was somebody like that. The leadership of the then fellowship on campus felt that they should question him a little bit. And that they may be able to help the sister to know whether this guy is sincere or not. He sat across them. Then one of the leaders said, "Praise the Lord, brother" In an attempt to sound like them, he answered and said " Praise the God, Praise the God" we suspected immediately that this one is not one of us. This is not our proper language and that he was trying to fake it.

So, God help you, sister, I pray that you don't fall into any mistake.