Marriage is a covenant

Covenant is not just a solemn agreement as defined by the western world. A Covenant is an unbreakable union between two people in which they are committed to each other for life. It is because people do not understand what a covenant is that they do not appreciate what marriage is all about and therefore, break their marriage vows. The success of couples in their marriage and other aspects of their life are based on the fact that they are Covenant Partners.

The terms of every Marriage Covenant are the Vows taken by the couple on their wedding day. When a man goes against the terms of the covenant, he cut with his wife on their wedding day by having an extramarital affair, engaging in Adultery and abandoning his home, one key word in a covenant is forgiveness.

When you enter into a Covenant, nothing your partner does should make you break your end of the Covenant. It is important to remember that a marriage relationship involves three Covenant Partners i.e. the man, His wife and God. God becomes involved when the couples go before Him to make their vows and anytime there is a problem, God is always ready to help us to overcome it.

A Covenant Relationship is not a Relationship of Convenience. It is most important in the time of crises; it is not cut for times of strength but for times of weakness. Husbands and wives must stay true to one another no matter what. We cannot back out of our marriages when things appear bad because Covenant is Commitment. The reason divorce is so rampant is because western civilization encourages spouses to be independent of each other, but this is not right.

Couples are supposed to be inter­dependent of each other. This means, they combine their efforts to achieve great success for their joint and individual goals in life. The strength of Covenant is agreement and so, husbands and wives must do all they can to avoid strife in their homes. In a home where Covenant is honoured, there will be peace and joy.

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Ingredients of a good marriage

The response "do" to the Pastor's question during the joining of a couple during a wedding ceremony is a very weighty one. This is why we have to be careful whom we say "do" to because you are saying “I do" to the person's Character, Value System and Beliefs.

When you say I do, you chose to submit yourself to a man with no regard for God and a person with no regard for God, no matter how decent he/she might seem, will eventually show a lack of regard for people. Good looks, money, a charming personality, a successful career or good intentions cannot guarantee a Good Marriage.

The basic ingredient for a good marriage is giving I God the place of honour in the marriage. The Bible says that a three-fold cord is not easily broken. The only thing that will make a man/woman resist temptation and treat his/her spouse with respect and honour is the fear of God. When the storms of life beat hard against a marriage, the only anchor that will hold firm is that which is grounded in the Word of God.

This is why it is so important that the person you chose to lean on and walk with through life is already leaning on the Rock of Ages, Jesus. Truly, God hates divorce (Malachi 3: 16) and this is why we must choose the person to marry with care. the choice of whom to marry should not be made based on emotions (no matter how deep the emotion might seem) but through prayers.

If you marry a Godly person, abuse of any kind or divorce will never be an option in your marriage; and please note that a Godly person is not somebody who goes to church regularly, but someone who actually has a personal relationship with God. : However, if you are in an abusive marriage, my advice is that you separate from your husband for some time while you use that In separation time to pray and ask for directions.

Please note that I am not saying that you should divorce your husband, but the truth is that many women have lost their lives, run mad or become irrevocably injured) because they stayed in the same house with an abusive husband. If your husband is abusing you, please get yourself out of danger and then seek counselling and prayers from your Pastor.

There is no marriage so bad that God cannot restore. The first step however comes from you giving your life to Christ and surrendering the situation to Him. Next, you have to also keep praying for your spouse and seek God for instructions on the step to take. You can also call me for counselling and prayers. I'll be happy to hear from you and to help you, but please remember that the first step to the total healing of your marriage starts with your step towards God.

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About God's plan for marriage

Many walk down the aisle today with little or no knowledge about the original plan of God for marriage. As far as many are concerned, if they feel good about someone, then they can go to bed with him/her. To them, it does not matter much whether the person is married or not.

God, the creator of heaven and earth, abhors any sexual relationship outside of Marriage and counts this act as adultery a sin that invokes His wrath and judgment. Even when a man divorces his wife for the sole aim of marrying another, he is seen as committing adultery before God.

Though there is no way people working together in the same office will not get friendly as a result of the time they spend together everyday, it is always necessary to draw boundary lines and define relationships before things get out of hand. A married man has no business in a single lady's flat at an ungodly hour. Everyone: needs to have certain boundaries that guide their relationships, especially with the opposite sex. The Bible encourages us to "flee from every appearances of evil."

Sadly, some ladies today sleep with a man because they are attracted to him, then they see another man with money and off they go again. They are overwhelmed by their insatiable desire for pleasures. I want such ladies to know that it is not possible to build a happy life by living a life without regard for the word of God. The choices we make on a daily basis will either make or mar our destiny.

The dangers of hopping from bed to bed are beyond HIV, or many of the dreaded Sexually Transmitted Diseases. It invokes the wrath of God; I Rev. 2:21-22 says: "And gave her time to repent of her sexual immorality and she did not repent. Indeed, I will cast her into a sickbed, and those who commit adultery with her into great tribulation unless they repent of their deeds".

Rather than letting our feelings cause us to make wrong choices and end up with God's wrath we can choose to live a life that is full of His blessings by obeying His word. If you have found yourself in the vicious circle of sexual perversion of any sort, the only hope that you have is to let the word of God cleanse your mind thoroughly.

If you are yet to have a relationship with Him I advise that you do so today by asking Jesus. Christ to come into your life, to be your personal Lord and Saviour. He loves you more than you can ever comprehend. But: you must choose today to say yes to Him and you will receive the love of God.

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