Life and death are two things that go hand in hand with Pastor Bimbo Odukoya and sometimes, listening to her speak of both so interchangeably and in no unequivocal language, you'd almost think she had death lurking by the comer.
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Life and death are two things that go hand in hand with Pastor Bimbo Odukoya and sometimes, listening to her speak of both so interchangeably and in no unequivocal language, you'd almost think she had death lurking by the comer.
But it seems so improper to refer to this modern day 'Agony Aunt' in the past, as her views about self and society continue to re-echo, one whole week after she and some 106 others plunged to earth with the ill-fated Sosoliso airliner.
Even the life-changing experience that saw her turning full swing into Christianity and eventual priesthood is predicated on the life and death issue. It was indeed a sermon on life and death that jolted her out of seeming lethargy.
Beyond Fountain of Life Church
When the news filtered on Sunday December11th, 2005 that Pastor Bimbo Odukoya, firebrand pastor and televangelist was one of those on board the Sosoliso aircraft that crashed on Saturday, December 10th, many people were stunned.
Ordinarily, the passing of a pastor would not have elicited much emotion from any group other than the congregation which he or she leads. When that Pastor is Bimbo Odukoya, associate senior pastor, Fountain of Life Church, President, Single and Married Ministries and Chairman, Discovery for Women, the horror, shock and disbe1ief at such a passing bleeds far beyond the walls of her church into the homes and hearts of many a Nigerians , young and old.
Pastor Bimbo would not be much surprised by the reactions. For apart from whatever she's been doing with Singles & Married and the Fountain of Life Church, she'd been round a few other churches too. Hear her: "Before founding the Fountain of Life Church, my husband and I served in a number of ministries since 1982. We were ordained in 1992 by Bishop Mike Okonkwo of The Redeemed Evangelical Mission (TREM).
How Billy Graham touched me
Born Bimbo Williams on September 12, 1960, she had her primary schooling at St. Mary's Private School and secondary education at the Holy Child College , Lagos. She grew up in a close-knit family and by her own admission, had the privilege of having the best parents in the world. She was an athlete and won medals for the school in the 100, 200 and 400 meter races.
When she was 13, an inkling of how she was to spend the rest of her life came as she watched American preacher, Billy Graham on television. She fell on her knees and wept, begging God to give her a chance to serve, Him and be like the preacher. But it was when she went to Federal Government College , Ijanikin that her journey began.
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"... When I got married to my husband, I was a virgin. We courted for five years and the relationship was devoid of fornication..." |
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Message that changed my life
"At FGC, I started attending fellowship and although many ministers came and preached, it was a message on life and death that got to me. There and then I judged myself and knew that if I should die, I would not make heaven because I was not living for God. That day, I made the decision to give my life to Christ and I did," she told Genevieve magazine in March this year.
Her future was already evident at this time as some two weeks after becoming born-again, she was chosen as the vice-president of her fellowship at FGC, Ijanikin, a position that led her to lead ladies who had been in the fellowship far longer than herself. This convinced everyone that indeed, God wanted to use her.
While in university, she was very active in fellowship, though she did didn't hold any executive position until she graduated and joined the Household of God where she was made the head of the counseling department. It was while in university that she met Taiwo Odukoya, a part 4 student of Petroleum Engineering, the man who was to become her husband. But it was while at Household of God that the seeds of the calling that was to become her life's work were sown.
‘Agony aunt' or practical Christian
In 1987, I had a vision in which I followed Jesus to a beautiful city called the City of David , into a street on which there was a signpost with the words, "Street of Practicality". Looking back now, I am not surprised when people say my teachings are practical because Jesus took me through the street of practicality," she said of the incident.
Eventually, she and her husband were ordained by Bishop Mike Okonkwo of the Redeemed Evangelical Mission (TREM) in 1992 and started their Fountain of Life Church with 20 members at llupeju Recreational Club, Lagos . By March 1993, the church moved to its present location in llupeju and has grown to some 7,000 worshippers.
By this time, Pastor Bimbo was holding relationship classes for young people on Monday evenings called S1ncle and Married. Eventually, the show took off from the Church to the air, where the rest of the world was waiting. Pastor Bimbo's Single and Married was syndicated to more than 16 stations in Nigeria , Ghana , Kenya and the United Kingdom .
It could just have passed as yet another Christian television programme. But this charismatic woman of God turned it into a spring of knowledge and succour for many a single person and troubled marriage.
Her hard-hitting but practical messages on romance and sex, love and marital fidelity touched the lives of thousands of people, across even religious affiliations, who tuned in weekly to take her advice and religiously apply it to their lives. She became more than just a personality on television to these people, more like a mother who understood their problems and told them the truth.
Her messages were simple, gritty and to the point. She never minced words and though some of the things she said were hard for them to accept, they loved her nonetheless.
I'm first a wife, then a mother, career, popularity come last
As her popularity grew, she began to have a larger than life image, even larger than the church and her husband, because she was reaching into the people's hearts and homes in ways the church could not do.
But she never let it go to her head and her humility was shown in the fact that, whenever the subject of her greater popularity came up, she never failed to point out that without her husband's support, she would not have achieved all that she did. She made sure to point out that he had actually founded the Single and Married Ministry and had made her the head-of it.
Even though she was such a high profile person, she also knew her place as his wife. "With God's support, I am able to carry out my role as a wife. Also I have a very wonderful and understanding husband who allows me to walk in my call. I understand the importance of being submissive to my husband and ensuring that he is well taken care of. I know my duties in the home come before my calling and so I give the necessary attention. I want all women to know that after God, their spouse is number one, followed by their children, then their ministry or career comes after their family. I know as a wife, my husband is my head and I have no problems with this at all.
My position on premarital sex
"Pre-marital sex creates a lot of psychological imbalance in an individual. It can lead to guilt, depression, disrespect, emotional abuse..."
Pastor Bimbo never failed to speak her mind on whatever issue that was up for discussion. One of the issues she constantly spoke about was pre-marital sex. She was unflinching in her belief that for a marriage to succeed pre-marital sex had to be discouraged and she used herself as an example to show that it could be done.
"When I got married to my husband, I was a virgin. We courted for five years and the relationship was devoid of fornication. I tell Singles that your period of courtship will determine what your marriage will be. If you have wrong principles during this period, then problems will occur later," she told a Nigerian magazine in a recent interview. The point was clear. If she could do it, so could they. |
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She believed strongly that the recipe for a good marriage was love. "The man must love his wife like Christ loved the church; this means loving her with all her imperfections and weaknesses. Also the wife is to be submissive to her husband, even when he is doing something wrong, she should focus on his strengths not his weaknesses: When both spouses love and fear God, abuse, adultery, child molestation and all other issues, which break homes will not be found in their marriage.
On young women's search for proverbial Mr. Right
Pastor Bimbo tried to make young people realise that to get the best person for themselves, they had to be the best themselves. "A lot of singles are distracted because all they focus on is finding Mr. Right or Miss Right instead of first being Mr. Right or Miss Right themselves. Singles tend to be obsessed with finding life partners rather than being obsessed with God. "
Being obsessed with God was very important to her. "I see serving God as a great privilege which I cannot take for granted because for God to entrust His precious and valuable people to me is an honour. When I think of the magnitude of this trust, it keeps me small in my own eyes. My advice to people who are in position of honour is to always remain small in their own eyes."
Aside from Single and Married, she was also the chairperson of Discovery for Women, a programme designed to inspire and challenge housewives, career women, working mothers and single mothers alike to look beyond themselves. She also wrote her best selling book, How to choose a life partner; She ran columns in THISDAY and City People dealing with the same issues her television programme addressed.
Putting so much into 45 years, Bimbo Odukoya, for many, embodied all that was good about this generation of Nigerians. Her practical style and empathy set her as the queen of the hearts of so many. She believed that to build a strong nation, you needed to build strong families and to build strong families, you needed to build strong marriages. So she gave herself the burden to build and pursue her vision with such vigour and tenacity.
Maybe if she had not pursued it with such vigour she might still be around today since she would not have needed to be in Port-Harcourt. But she might also not have been the Bimbo Odukoya many had come to love.
Others have come after her with the same vision, but most only aspire to reach the heights she has within such a short life. She lived her life well and to the fullest, a life many who have lived longer than she did wished they could.
When I die...
In a soft sell magazine where she gave an interview to mark her 45th birthday, she summed up her life. "When I look back at my 45 years on earth and the things that the Lord has allowed me to achieve so far, I feel really blessed. You see, every year added to a person's age is one closer to the grave.
Life is very short, death is sure and one day, we will each account for the life lived before God. It is upon this premise that I seize every opportunity I have to work for God. At the end of the day, when my life on earth is done, I want to hear Jesus say, well done to me." And no better person deserves to receive this honour - than Pastor Bimbo Odukoya.
Culled from The Sun |
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