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There is nothing wrong is marrying a younger guy. I can marry a younger guy if the age difference is not much. Something like some months, at most a year. On this basis, there must be some understanding. I have to see him as a man who is capable of handling me, someone who can handle situations well. The problem has to do with our traditions. But if the age disparity goes to about five years, that will be unbearable for me. My priorities in marriage are intelligence, maturity. Most of we women in Africa still have babyish attitude to life.
Bidemi Ojekanmi,
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The Kenyan story is an eyesore to me. But if it's ok for the guy and the grandmother, it's then ok. But if I have to go out with a younger man, I will forever see him as my younger brother, as my son. No matter how rich or intelligent he could be and once that mindset exist, how can love exist?
If I am a second older than any man, I can't marry him. Biblically, the man is the head and once you are the head, you must be superior in all ramifications. I don't see myself submitting to a younger man. This can happen in America where respect and culture has no value. In Africa , our husbands must be older, better, richer, bigger in all ways. A man that can be leaned on. No matter how long we have been going out, no matter how he has impressed me, once I find out that be is younger than me, the affair terminates.
Tutu Gbagba
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It will take the will of God to do that. On my own natural level, I cannot because I know I will misbehave one day. If the Lord has said so, then I have to learn so many things and very quickly too. I will have to learn submission, how to caution my tongue.
If its he will of God, then he must satisfy me in areas of relationship with God, financially and he must be a 'man'.
Bukky Buchel
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No, I can't marry a younger man because of my typical African mentality and emotions. I want a man that can pamper me, take me as his younger sister and his baby. I don't think a younger can is capable of doing that. I do not want a man I will be looking after like a child. What has age got to do with love is not African saying. Here in Africa , age has got to do with so many things. Age is respect. Even if I have been in the relationship with the guy and I found out that he is younger than me, I will back out of it. There can't be hope in the relationship.
Bola Olajide
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Ordinarily, I cannot marry any man younger than me because by all mean he wouldnt be as experienced as I am. He cannot handle me. I know who I am. I understand my nature and people must understand that we have our peculiar character. I have my own character such that I know a younger man cannot handle me that way I like. Our culture is such that the man should be on top in all things. We women have come to accept that. To now be superior to him in an important issue like age will require more from him to control me successfully.
I like to celebrate my birthdays. How do I doctor my certificates? How do I cope on our birthdays such that my friends will not say I married my son? The African mentality has not come to accept such.
Tinuke Olayiwola
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I cannot. How do I explain it to my friends? How can I accept it within me that I am older than my husband? I am an African lady and we have to play the game according to our culture. Somethings, if not all things have standards. If the man must be my head, if I must submit to him as the bible demands, then he must merit it. He must not only be richer, stronger, more committed and know God, he must be older than me. That will guaratee the fact that he is more matured than me.
Nancy Adeoye, Lagos.
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I cannot marry any lady who is more than five years older than me. If under five years, she must have very good qualities I would get in ladies I would ordinarily go for. Marriage is not about age. It is about love. It's about someone I would love to spend my life with. Marrying an older woman would expose me to checking her out, her background, attitude to Christ, obedience, ability to submit in all things.
My reactions to the guy who married the 67-year-old woman is that we all have our rights to choose whatever we want. I suspect the guy is poor and the woman is rich. He knows that at 67, the woman is near her grave and he would be able to inherit her properties and marry a younger woman. Also, the guy could be impotent and knowing that the woman can't conceive again, he could save his face by marrying the older woman.
Julius Olayiwola (Male)
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I can marry a woman who is older me at least not more than five years. With five years, she would definitely be looking older than me. But I can still manage that if we are compatible. Even, if she is more than five years, as long as her shape and figure is still okay, and I find out that she will be ok for years to come, I can still proceed into the relationship.
But essentially, it's a major of submissiveness. If she knows how to carry herself in such a way that I will not be threatened at home and feel inferior in some ways to her, I will proceed with the relationship.
Niji Olowe, Multilinks, VI Lagos. |
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The age disparity between the Kenyan 67-years old woman and the guy is too such and absurd. I cannot do it. I may marry a woman is 2-3 years older but certainly not beyond that because as time goes on, she would age beyond what I would like. We need to bear in mind that women age faster than men. Even when you are five years older than your wife, at a stage, you will all look alike. But when she is already older, she would certainly look like your grandmother at a later age.
Shina Okunneye, (Male) |
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It will take the grace of God for me to marry a woman who is older than me. There should be a great understanding. Our chemistry must mix. She must have the fear of God. I fear such marriage because women being who they are will take such age superiority too far. She might be unable to manage that edge in moments of pressure or anger. She has to be naturally submissive, able to subdue her anger and submit to me her husband. If it's the will of God for me to marry such a lady, why not?
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