Proverbs 21:1 says, “The king's heart is in the hand of the Lord, like the rivers of water, he turns it wherever he wishes.” A woman says, “I love my husband, but he is a stubborn man, I have tried and tried to get my husband to listen to me but he won't. Everything has to

Husbands should understand and note that women need attention, women do not like to be ignored and who better to give them a listenning ear but their husband. So in effect, men should note that arguments are probably the most common side effect of major decisions made without any discussion with your wives. Your wife will feel left out and stress may develop.

Now to the women. It is pertinent to note that every problem has solution, with God on your side, you will be victorious. Patience it is said is a virtue. Women, you need it if you want your husbands to change. While you are being patient and waiting on the Lord, you can master godly acts.

They are:
- Respect your husband.
- Submit in all things.
- Be meek and gentle
Learn to appeal to his feelings and his mind.

Women, you need to understand godly strategies which will help you overcome a person's objections or disbelief. You can do this by presenting proof or by argument while appealing to his reason and understanding.

You can do this by:
Rule 1 - Timing and attitude
Rule 2 - Ensure it will favour him too. Win-win. (Pro. 31:12)
Rule 3 - Do things for your children and husband that will make your husband call you a blessed woman. (Pro. 31:25-28)

There is a lot of insight in the old story about the woman who fetched for, cleaned and took care of her husband, she so pampered him, admired him and then asked for a new car. If you are sincere in your attitude to him, if you are considerate, thoughtful and caring to wards him, you can rest assured that your husband will be open to do so much for you. He will love you so much and will be willing to listen to you. It has become a joke but there is a lot of insight in the old story about the woman who fetched her husband's slippers, cooked him a splendid meal, told him how young and handsome he looked and then asked him for a new car or a new furniture.

I don't mean you have to flatter your husband in an insincere manner but if you are constantly thoughtful and considerate and just plain nice, your husband is going to want to do so much for you. He will love you so much and will be willing to listen to you and he will be able to put your priority over his own.

So, rule number three is: Try to be nice to your husband, try to work on your own attitude and that will make your husband want to do all that you want hi to do for you.

One husband said, “My wife used to have such a domineering attitude, one day, it dawned on me that she has changed her attitude and she has not said a word about something she wanted me to do for her. Sure enough, she had completely given up her expectations to the Lord (Ps. 62:1-2). She started focusing more attention on her inner qualities. At that moment, I was willing to do anything for her.”

If you have done everything within your power to get your husband to listen to you and he doesn't, just be like this woman. Take it to the Lord in prayer and just trust Him to reach your husband. Remember Pro. 21:1. Therefore, know that your trust in God will not be disappointed... Several factors make it easy for a family member to change.

Your marriage can be a good model. All you need is Jesus Christ to help you. The Lord loves you and he wants you to be his child today.

- By Pastor (Mrs.) Bimbo Odukoya

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