When people say they are in love, it could be either of these, please be sincere with yourself so as to be able to know the kind of love that you really have.
(1) Association Love - You may think you are in love just because of your association with that fellow, you need to withdraw from that association a little to really know whether you are in love or you are just enjoying the company of the fellow.
(2) Environmental Love - This is what people take to be love because they are staying in the same area or in the same class, church, fellowship, group, choir or club. Because they are together and work together perfectly, they may think they are in love. Enjoying seeing somebody everyday does not equate love, please be careful.
(3) Vacuum Love: A young lady lost her mother, she felt lost, devastated and lonely. Then, a young man who was a friend of the family kept on coming to check her, to cheer her up, before long the lady claimed to be in love with him. She was surprised when the guy said he had no iota of love for her and that he was just performing his duty as a friend. This lady wanted to fill the vacuum created by the death of her mother with the love of this man thereby creating a "vacuum love". It happened to most singles, most especially if they have a broken relationship, they will desire to fill their void mind with the nearest person or the next "caller" this is a vacuum love. Never go into love relationship when you are sad, bereaved, depressed, stressed or disappointed because you may end up with a vacuum lover.
(4) Sympathy Love: It is the opposite of vacuum love. A young lady was jilted by her lover of six years. She was devastated and was hospitalized for weeks. A young man who was her course-mate was beside her throughout this period and saw her weeping everyday. This guy said that his desire to console her made him fell in love with her; they eventually went into a relationship that lasted for only six months leaving the lady devastated again. When you find yourself in love with somebody because .of his/her problem, you are in a sympathy love.
(5) Childish/Foolish Love - Another name for it is infatuation (it is well treated in this book)
(6) Conditional Love - This is the kind of love you have for somebody for a particular reason. For example, if the person is giving you money, sex, gifts, etc this kind of love is a conditional love.
(7). Availability Love - This is the kind of affection you have toward somebody because he or she is the only one available. A born again lady of 31 years of age decided to marry a man that womanises, drinks and smokes because according to her , he is the only one that proposed to her, hence she· decided to go for the available man because she claimed, she is too old to be waiting for any other person, this is a availability love.
(8) Deceptive Love - This is love in pretense, you decided to pretend that you love somebody because of what you are gaining or tend to gain in the relationship, this is dangerous and unscriptural.
(9) Financial Love - Love for the sake of financial gains or for business or employment opportunity. Marriage is not a business venture, never treat it as one.
(10) Sex Love - It is also known as lust. (It is well treated in this book}
(11) Genuine Love - This is true love. It can only come from a regenerated mind, it is unconditional, truthful, holy and void of sexual Immorality.
(12) Sacrificial Love - This is what love should be, love that emphasize giving, not receiving, love that seeks the good of the other party. It is selfless love. When God love the world, He gave his only begotten son (John 3:16) that is a sacrifice, that is what love should be, not to receive but to give.
* Pastor Bisi Adewale is the president of College of marital Success. Visit his website at www.familybooster.org
