Here's How:
- Keep your mouth closed and your eyes and ears open.
- Keep a detailed journal of your spouse's activities.
- See if there is a pattern to your spouse's 'extra' times away.
- Record times and dates of phone calls that are hang-ups and/or wrong numbers.
- Check his or her pockets for receipts.
- If your spouse travels, call a couple hours after their nightly phone call home.
- Call unknown phone numbers from a pay phone, say nothing, see if you can identify who answers.
- Smell their clothing. Make sure that "perfume" isn't actually your bath soap or their regular cologne.
- Check the mileage on the car before and after trips.
- Become unpredictable.
- Show up at your spouse's office for lunch without notice.
- Say you're working late when you plan on being home early or on time.
- Read their email.
- Go through their wallet or purse.
- Hire a private detective.
Tips:
- Your spouse is apt to make more mistakes if you act trusting and dumb than if you accuse them of cheating.
- Do not accuse your spouse of cheating until you have enough evidence to prove it and you're ready to take action.
- Do not confront your spouse with evidence of their cheating until you can handle their response. Suspecting is one thing; having them confirm their adultery is much worse.
If you are cheating on your spouse, do not assume that your spouse has to be cheating on you.
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