abuse it, many go into marriage for the wrong reasons money, sex, beauty, ego, etc. Nevertheless, Gods reasons are expressed in His word;
1. Companionship Gen. 2: 18, Eccl. 4:9·10
2. Procreation (Godly seed) Mal. 2:15
In the choice of a life partner, some are carnal, shot by cupid's arrow, whereas some are hyper spiritual dreams, revelations, etc. To make the right choice, one must be able to strike a balance.
In the discovery of a life partner, certain things come first, one must discover oneself, ones walk with God, and purpose in life, before discovering ones partner.
These are necessary, they will dictate the quality of your choice, Adam had a job lpurpose) first before Eve came along, Eve knew God first before she know Adam, ... "deep calleth unto deep" if you desire a committed partner, you should also be committed, if you are otherwise don't expect God to give you a committed partner, "Iike begets like."
The discovery of a life partner is a set up of divinely arranged circumstances, for example, I a social science student in the university campus met my husband in a science reading room, by the invitation of a friend to read in a quiet environment! .It takes the leading of the Spirit to be at the right place at the right time, doing the right thing, Rebecca at the well, (Gen.24:14·26), Ruth at Boaz's threshing floor, (Ruth 2:3-5).
SISTERS, Be at the right place at the time doing the right thing.
BROTHERS, The evidence of desire is pursuit, When you have seen what you want, GO FOR IT. Don't just hang around, you might loose your chance. Don't be double minded and keep hanging around many sisters. BE DECISIVE.
QUALITIES TO LOOK OUT FOR IN A MAN
1. Does he love God? A man who has tenderness towards God can be tender to others.
2. How does he relate with his mother and other females?
3.ls he always complaining?
4.ls he a giver? (When a man loves he gives). 5.ls he dependable and reliable?
6. Is he your mentor? (Is he interested in your progress?)
QUALITIES TO LOOK OUT FOR IN A WOMAN
1. Does she love God?
2. Is she submissive to authorities? (Parents, pastor, leaders etc.)
3.ls she domesticated?
4. Is she interested in helping you fulfill your purpose as a man?
5.ls she teachable and humble?
6.ls she resourceful or over-dependent? 7 .Is she emotionally stable?
The BIG question is "do you like him or her?" Do you enjoy each others company? God will not make the choice for anyone, or, else He will be violating ones will' and .' po~er of choice. A man has to make this decision himself. God only presents, man makes the choice. One must pray, wait for God to present him or her and finally, make the choice.
Even for Adam, God only presented Eve to him, He did not impose Eve on him, Adam made the choice.
Rely on the assistance of the Holy Spirit, but it is not His responsibifity. Finally remembe,r a relationship is only as good as whatever the individuals represents.
Be ready to apply Gods wisdom by doing it Gods way.
Practical: make a list of your desired qualities and pray over it until you see the manifestation.
Pst. (Mrs) Ruth Johnson is the wife of Pastor Robert Johnson of Kings Mission Centre, Lagos NIgeria.
