It's good to have this online counseling forum where one could speak his deep sorrows to someone you don't know, someone who will not laugh at you and yet give good advice from which others could learn.
My challenge is that I had a daughter before I got married to my present wife. Of course, I told my wife the truth that a Muslim girl had a daughter for me when I was still single and the child is still with her. I could not marry this Muslim girl because it was impossible for me to marry a school certificate holder and by the way, a Muslim and she had no intention of going back to school.
She had many things not going for her then. She is not properly polished. I just graduated and just got a poorly paying job. I needed help to feed well. Her father was the landlord of the house I stayed with my friends, five of us in a room. So she would bring food for us but I was the fasted to date her. I was very fast with women. I just thought of sleeping with her but she thought she could trap me with a child.
She came from a polygamous home and she was looking for an escape route from her troubled father's house. Her mother was dead. I noted all these then but I thought I could escape somehow after enjoying her. But she pulled a fast one! But I insisted that sleeping with her does not mean I wanted to marry her. That time, I just wanted a sleeper, not a wife. Today, I'm born-again but my sin is troubling me.
Now the child is 9 years-old and a Muslim because she is with her mum. I am a Christian, born-again and strong in the Lord with my wife. That lady is still not married. I want to take this daughter but her mother is ready to do anything to stop me. I am sad that I have a daughter outside my home, more so practicing Islam. I heard that her mother covers her hair in an Islamic manner when going to school. When I call my daughter on phone to sing a song for, she says she cannot sing any Christian song, and in fact, she goes on to quote the Qur'an for me. Many times I was moved to tears that what kind of mistake I made in those days of ignorance.
I must confess to you that I used to pay her school fees. But I had stopped because of her mother's disposition and because she is not with me, I often overlook sending her money. I have three children now with my wife.
I am about to seek a legal counsel and fight to take my child, because I think the earlier I bring her up in the way of the Lord, the better. But you know these Muslims. I have heard her mother say, she is ready to do just anything to keep my daughter to herself. And that she would show me if I try her. This is a constant source of worry for me. What can I do? I am ready to answer any questions you have for me on this issue.
Thanks,
Olaitan.
