2) Make your relationships a priority.
If your relationships aren't what you want them to be--one of the reasons may be that you haven't made them a priority. Whether it be with your intimate partner, your mate, the people you work with, the people in the social organizations you belong to or the people you meet on the street---make ALL your relationships important-- More important than getting things done.

3) Turn off the TV or Stop spending so much time on the Internet.
Start reading self development or inspirational books -- maybe a chapter a night with someone you care about and then discuss the important discoveries you make about yourself and each other. We suggest Gary Zukav's Seat of The Soul, Don Miguel Ruiz's The Four Agreements and Gay Hendricks book Conscious Living as good books to start with.

4) Be present in All your relationships.
In every relationship you're in and in every personal encounter give whom ever you're with your full attention. Giving another person your full attention is as good of a gift as you can give anyone.

5) Love the other people in your life the way they want to be loved and not how you think they want to be loved.
Believe it or not there is a difference in almost all cases because we all come from a different set of circumstances and experiences. So take the time to ask the people in your life-- "how do you want to be treated or loved?" Then treat them that way.

6) Speak your truth in all your relationships.
Sometimes we think we are being kind to another when we hold back from telling another person how we are feeling. We've found that if you want your relationships to be real and authentic instead of being mired in fear, you need to speak your truth.

7) Honor the people in your life even when they're not present.
If you have an issue with someone that needs to be addressed--be sure to address it with that person and not make it a part of water cooler conversation at work.

8) Listen to self-development or inspiring tapes in the car instead of the radio.
The average person will spend over 750 hours a year in a car traveling somewhere. You can be using that time for personal and spiritual growth instead of listening to the latest information about wrecks and drug busts on the news.

9) Don't take anything personally.
This is great advice and is one of the four agreements from Don Miguel Ruiz's book-- The Four Agreements. If someone else is having a bad day it may have nothing to do with you. If someone you come in contact with is inconsiderate or rude just practice sending them love instead of taking offense. You have no idea what things may be happening in the life of that other person.

10) Tell the people in your life how much they mean to you.
Otto's father has had a saying for many years that he wants his flowers while he's living. What this means is, he wants to know how much the other people in his life care now instead of after he is gone. Honor the peop1e you love today. Don't wait.

About the authors Susie and Otto Collins are Spiritual and Life Partners who regularly write, speak and do workshops on love, relationships and personal and spiritual growth.