Yet most don't consider taking the time to be sexually successful. History records all the individuals who have climbed to great levels of financial, political, spiritual or entertainment success. Ultimately it was their sexual brain that led them down to a path of ultimate destruction.

Like so many who are ultimately successful in a particular field and have learned to train themselves to be successful, so can you train yourself to be sexually successful. So, take out your pens because we are going to a sexual success class!

First, let's get to the basics. Every brain operates the same. When you experience an orgasm you receive the highest levels of endorphins and enkephalins which hit the center of the brain called the preoptic neuron. This chemical rush is close to four times stronger than morphine. This is by far the highest chemical reward you'll get from anything you experience in life.

Secondly, whatever you are looking at, whether real or imaginary, you will glue to it. Literally, you attach to whatever you orgasm too. This is classical conditioning to the max. Remember Pavlov's dog? Ring the bell, feed the dog. The dog salivates and gets conditioned to eat when the bell rings.

Now, let's have a moment of honesty like I have with so many of my telephone clients. Many of my clients have orgasm reinforcement thousands of times to pornography and sexual fantasy. This reinforcement has led them down the road chasing whatever it is that they were looking at.

Take John for example (a real story). He went to Catholic School and connected to spanking as his sexual fantasy. He secretly reinforced this fantasy during adolescence and your adulthood. He married and his wife would not participate in his sexual fantasy and so he kept a secret self-behavior with the spanking fantasy. John got on the Internet and started to act this out in real life. His wife found out and John chose his fantasy life over the real world.

In John's divorce, he lost controlling interest of their company, became fired and lost millions of dollars. John's sexual brain became John's and so many others with similar experiences, downfall.

A sexually successful brain is critical. Let's face it; most of us learned sexuality through pornography, fantasy and immortality. We have several neuropathic reinforcements to images that are unhealthy for our ultimate success.

That's why you can be at a restaurant with your spouse and be checking out the waitperson other individuals while dining in the restaurant. Your brain is chasing reinforcement at a neurological level.

So you are thinking how do I change my brain? That's relatively easy. I have counseled over a thousand sex addicted men and women. Talk about having brains wired for disaster! If my clients can retrain their brain, so can you.

Now what I am about to share with you absolutely works. We surveyed a more than a thousand sex addicts and they said this was at the top of their recovery tools. So do this and you too can have a brain that will lead you to sexual success.

Place a rubber band on your wrist and wear the band for at least thirty days. Every time your brain wants to scan, objectify or fantasize about someone in a sexual manner, snap the rubber band. If you do this right, it should hurt when you snap it.

Now we are setting in place what we call classical reconditioning. Before we had ring the bell, feed the neurological dog when you objectified people. Now we have ring the bell, discipline the dog reconditioning cycle.

It will take about thirty days and your brain will be cleaner than it has been in years. You'll find yourself no longer objectifying people in a sexual manner. You won't be mindlessly finding yourself wanting to flirt or worse with others.

You can be successful financially, emotionally, and spiritually. But to maintain total success you must also be successful sexually.

Maintaining sexual success while you build whatever kingdom you are trying to build, is the cornerstone. If you fail sexually, you tend to take a lot of time, energy and creativity from your primary purpose. Also, if you continue to keep failing sexually, you begin to have sexual secrets. These secrets eventually create sexual shame.

Business people you work with that have integrity can sense your secrets and shame and may intuitively not trust you as much. More deals are lost by intuition than anyone will ever know.

On the reverse, I have worked with many sex addicts who are business owners who have doubled their income in one year just because they became sexually successful. If you need help with your sexual success, try this. Your sexual success and success in life is so much worth it!

Douglas Weiss, Ph.D. Author of Sex, Men and God .

Website: www.winningatmarriage.com.
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