CChurches ministering to women problems?
The present church is not adequately doing that and that is why people like me set up this kind of organisation to fill in the gap.

The problem of women goes back to what happened in the Garden of Eden, and for this reason some men are so biased today that they see nothing good in women. Some say woman means Woe unto man. In Yoruba, they say Iyawo (wife) mean Iya wo (look at suffering) some would say woman means Eni to wo man lule (person who destroys man)

Attitudes of men to women preachers
How many men attend women conference? Most men will not concentrate in cChurches when women preach. Men should know that the Holy Spirit is neither a man nor a woman. When Jesus was here, he gave everybody who sought Him equal attention.

Can Christians divorce?
Yes, I agree but the bottom line is still the foundation. That is why I tell my students that if you marry an unbeliever, the devil is your father in-law and he has no nature of mercy.

Now, no Christian would encourage divorce and if you discourage it some people are dying in some relationships. What do we do? That is why we say prevention is better than cure. If they had taken time to get the right man in a right way through the Lord, it will reduce the stress.

I believe that if it will take your life, you can separate but the bible is clear on that. If a woman leaves and the husband is alive, you are not permitted to remarry.

If you do, you are living in adultery. Biblically, there is no room for divorce. But the fact that you are divorced does not mean you will not make heaven.

Of course, divorce brings pains and the society makes you look odd but that will not prevent you from heaven. The person has to get up again, the scar may be there but God, not time, will heal it. I have always told people that Christians don’t date, we court.

Dating is trial by error, going out to know his character, his person, etc. No. As a Christian, that is settled. Once you know the Lord is leading you, you begin your courtship by cutting on your excesses, creating a foundation, building your future and get married.

Third party in marriage
The third party is not evil in all cases. A couple can speak out at any point because you can’t afford to die in your problem. Some people have gone through what you are going through today, so at each point in life, some people are ahead of you.

I am however not talking of idle chatter or indiscriminate opening of the mouth to whomever comes your way. Consultation should be done with people you highly respect, not necessarily your friends or parents but people who have no stake or real interest in your marriage other than see you grow and praying for you. In fact every couple must have a counselor, if you like your spiritual parent.

What do you think of computer dating?
It is demonic. It is not allowed in Christendom. As I said earlier, in Christendom, you don’t date, you court and you don’t court someone you don’t know or pray with. You don’t court someone God has not led you to. Of course, God does not choose for any man, he leads a man to choose his spouse.

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